Why Need Sex Education?Children and adolescents are vulnerable to misinformation about sex. If you do not get proper sex education, they will fall for the myths about sex that is not true. Information about sex should be obtained directly from parents who have a particular concern for their children.
Agency survey of Badan Koordinasi Keluarga Berencana Nasional (BKKBN) shows that more than 60 percent of teens in Indonesia have premarital sex. The numbers in the country concerned enough uphold moral values regarding sex. Why they can have sex before marriage? The reason for the lack of sex education to children and adolescents. When did sex education can begin to do?
When is Sex Education Begins?
When did sex education can begin to be given to children? Some parents often answer the question of sex with short answers: "Wait ye big!". Actually the best time to give sex education is early! Sex education begins even since the child was a toddler.
If you delay giving sex education when your child enters adolescence, then it was too late. Because in the age where information is easily obtained from the Internet and their peers, so when their teenage son has learned more about sex and most probably from the wrong perspective.
How to Provide Sex Education?
How best to provide sex education to your children? Here are some of the stages of age and how to provide sex education in accordance with your child's age level.
Toddlers (1-5)
At this age, you can begin to instill sex education. The way is easy, namely by starting to introduce to your baby sex organs of his brief. No need to give a detailed explanation because the attention span of children is usually short.
For example when bathing your child, you can tell the various organs of the child's body, such as hair, head, hands, feet, stomach, and do not forget the penis and the vagina or vulva. Then explain differences in genitalia of the opposite sex, for example, if your child has a younger brother of the opposite sex.
In addition, emphasize also that the genitals should not be paraded in vain, and also explain if there is a touch without known parents, the child must shout out loud and to report to their parents. Thus, your children can be protected against the rampant cases of sexual violence and sexual abuse of children.
Age 3-10 years
At this age, children usually begin to actively ask about sex. For example a child would ask where he came from. Or general questions such as how the origin of the baby. The answers are simple and straightforward is usually effective.
Example # 1: "Babies come from?" You can answer the mother's abdomen. Or you can show me a mother who was pregnant and showing the location of the baby in the mother's abdomen.
Example # 2: "How do babies get out of Mummy's tummy?" You can answer the baby out of the vagina or vulva hole so I could get out of the mother's abdomen.
Example # 3: "Why can the baby's stomach?" You can answer that the baby in the mother's stomach because there are seeds given by the father to the mother. The trick is the father put the seeds using a penis and the vagina of the mother. It's called sexual intercourse, and it should only be done by men and women who have married.
By the age of Teenagers
As a growing child, starting when you explain about menstruation, wet dreams, and also the physical changes that happen to a teenager. You could explain that little girl will experience changes in breast shape, or explain the existence of feathers grow around the genitals.
Age Youth
At this time, a teenager will experience many changes in sexual. You need more intensive instill good moral values to him. Give an explanation of such loss-free sex transmitted diseases and the consequences of emotion.
According to research, early sex education will avoid pregnancy outside marriage as the children grow into adolescence and later adulthood. No need to talk about sex taboo within the family. Because your child needs to get the right information from their parents, not from other people about sex.
Because curiosity is a large, if the child is not given sex education, then the child will seek answers from another person, and would be more frightening if the sex information obtained from peers or the Internet that information can be wrong. Therefore, protect your children from an early age to equip them with education about sex the right way.